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Questions, Motivation, Quantity
HOW TO GET MORE BY ASKING MORE
I want to introduce you to a unique concept that may finally change how you view your game with women. First, let's talk about your inner monologue, dude.
One of the most powerful personal development methods you can use to alter the course of your life (your DESTINY, really) is through the use of QUESTIONS.
Questions cut through and clarify the current state of affairs, and they help you see what may not have been visible before.
However, they can only do this if you have the guts to answer them TRUTHFULLY. The man who lies to himself can never see the world clearly, and will then subject every bit of his reality to illusion - like looking at the world through distorted glass. In the short-term, he'll make himself feel 'better' about things by lying to himself, but in the long-term he'll just ensure his own failure.
Success is fleeting when it's based on faulty understanding.
Ask yourself a few questions to clarify where YOU are right now:
- Are you looking for just one woman to "settle down" with? If so, why?
- Do you want to sleep with as many women as you can? And why?
- Are you feeling that your skills in meeting and getting women interested in you are where you want them to be? If not, what are you doing to remedy this situation?
- If you know you want something (a woman, a new job, a more comfortable social life), what is stopping you from having it?
- Do you ever feel incapable of doing the things you know you need to do? Do you wish you had a "magic button" you could push that would get you in gear when you need to?
These questions focus on the one critical element of any drive to change your life: your MOTIVATION. Asking yourself questions allows you to find out what it is that kicks you in the @ss and gets you moving towards your goals.
Without understanding what it is that drives you, you could spend your whole life saying something like this:
"I wish I knew somewhere to go to meet women."
"I have the worst luck with women."
"Yeah, I'll be at work late. You know me - I've got no life." (Even jokingly.) "I'm happy being single." (When it's a cop-out for failures with women.) "Yeah, I know, BUT...." ("But" what?) "I'll just rent a movie at home tonight..." "I can't find any women that are right for me..." (While only "meeting" one woman every couple of weeks or months at best.)
If there's one person you have to tell the truth to in the end, it's yourself, guys.
The reality is that the ONLY way to improve your situation with women is to get out there and interact with MORE women. Of every kind imaginable. Friends, lovers, acquaintances, you name it.
QUANTITY is the name of the game.
MORE women means MORE opportunities. It's a simple numbers game.
MORE women means more successes ... and more failures. Remember that the sports superstars don't just succeed more, they also fail more. But the failures aren't failures to them, and they don't mean anything to them. When you're in a scarcity (and SCARED-ity) mindset, the failures hurt so much because they comprise a high proportion of your game.
If you meet 2 women and strike out with 1, that's 50%. If you meet 10 women and strike out with 5, that's still 50%, but you bet your @ss you don't care as much when you've got the other 5 saying "Yes, please." Your RATIO of failures is the same, but you've just multiplied your successes by FIVE.
Pretty slick, huh? Let's call this seduction math.
If the woman you're looking for is one-in-a-thousand, guess how many women you're likely to have to go through to find her?
"Uhhh.... heheh... Dude... I'm not good at math..."
Well, it would be nice if she showed up in the first ten or fifteen, but that's not how Murphy's Law works. If you have a 1 in 1000 shot, chances are your number will come up right around the end... say, Ms. 999 or Ms. 1000.
So get busy.
If you find yourself saying "I'm just not lucky with women," it's nothing about LUCK. It's that you aren't exposing yourself to enough women to warrant MORE success.
EVERY question and problem works itself out if you approach enough women. EVERY bit of understanding and skill comes from the number of women you get into your life by taking action. Knowledge isn't power - it's only POTENTIAL.
ACTION is what separates the men from the boys.
EVERY problem you're having with your dating life right now can be traced back to some root causes, but most wind up being that guys simply don't TRY enough. They don't try, and they don't succeed, and then they don't ask themselves the all-important question:
What can *I* do to change this situation, instead of blaming something outside my control or sphere of influence?
And, that all-important follow up:
What do I need to start thinking in order to motivate myself to actually DO IT?
Ask yourself those hard questions. The difference in the quality of your life can be traced back to the decisions you make every day.
And every decision started out as a question.
I met this girl at work, we both attracted to each other, when I first asked her out, her boyfriend was away. We went for a drink, nothin more, she told me she doesnt wanna rush... A week later, we kissed at work, next day she came & told me that was a mistake, & her boyfriend s comin back next week... So I stayed away, & havent seen each other for about 2 weeks (working different shifts), 2 days ago, we were working together, after work I drove her home, she asked me to come up for a drink, first I refused , but she insisted , so I went to her place.
We first start talkin, then we end up on the bed, me on the top givin her some "Massage". I touched her boobs, she didnt mind, & when she got to the point where she couldnt resist, she asked me to stop, because she's tired.. She knows that girls at work like me, but she doesnt show that she's jealous. Sometimes she show me her cold shoulder, other time she's cool. What should I do to drive her to me?
Let's run this one by-the-numbers...
First of all, I have to give you the standard warning about dipping your pen in the company ink. Be sure that you aren't in a position where you two could become involved and have this jeopardize your job. It's complicated managing a workplace romance (if it even works out) and it's even more difficult to extract yourself later. But, if you're mature enough to handle it, there's a lot of potential in the work zone.
Second, are you seeing other people? It sounds to me like your fixated on this gal and aren't spreading your attention around, so that you don't sit around at night asking yourself "How can I get this one girl to love me????" You'll obsess and ruin your chances. The tighter you hold on to something, the more likely it is to elude you.
Third, it sounds as though you're courting another dangerous situation: a boyfriend who is still in the picture. This doesn't mean you should stop your moving in on her, but be sure Bubba isn't a redneck with a twelve-gauge shotgun in his pickup. Also, ask yourself why this gal is fooling around. Is she sick of him and looking for the next vine to swing to? Needing a little attention? If she does this to him, she WILL do it to you.
Fourth, it does sound as if she's genuinely attracted to you and she's not just leading you on for the attention. HOWEVER, don't try to tell me that you got her to the point where she couldn't resist, because SHE DID resist. She put on the brakes - on purpose. (Here's a wet slap of Truth: No woman stops a hot time with a guy because she's "tired.")
Why did she halt the fun? Because she knew that she could have you, and there was no anticipation. So, somewhere below her thoughts, she got guilty/scared and put your brakes on so that you didn't run over her. She wasn't sure she wanted to do more with you because her desire wasn't raised higher than the level of her caution.
(Re-read that a couple times. It's important.)
Your job as a man is to bring her to a level of desire and anticipation so high that she cannot say no to you.
Fifth (gosh, we're up to 5 already?), she may know that other women at work like you, and this probably contributes to her desire for you, but you have to prove to her WHY. She got interested because she sees others desiring you (women want what other women want), and your perceived value increased as a result. You did the right thing in making her beg a little to get you to come in (playing hard to get), but she let you cop a feel and now you're just rolling over and giving her everything she wants.
You stopped being a challenge.
Hmmm. Her hot/cold treatment works like a charm, huh?
Golly. I wonder why.
So how do you raise her desire and attraction for you?
What you should do is turn the tables a little. Send some mixed signals.
When she's warm, you act a little cool and indifferent. When she's cool, you act warm and indifferent to her coolness. (If you act put off by her coolness, you demonstrate that her behavior controls your behavior.) And all the while, you need to keep flirting with the other gals to make sure she knows she isn't the only game in town. Be a lot less available.
If she really wants what you've got, she needs enough space to feel like she wants it. You're taking the fun out of the chase by giving up your goods so easily. No woman wants what can be had too easily.
And did I mention that you should be dating other women? Good. Just checking. You'll be amazed at how attracted she'll be when there might be someone else to take you away.
Remember, I teach this strategy not in the spirit of manipulation, but to show you some of the critical behaviors that confident men do ALL THE TIME, without even consciously deciding to do them, because it comes NATURALLY. I explain them so that you see the micro-behaviors that comprise the overall attitude. They don't exist in a vacuum, but by the time you acquire all the understanding of these small strategies, you'll understand the greater picture and can begin to work top-down as well.
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